Jarvis Clutch Chapter 4 – Personal Connection
After reading chapter 4 . . .
Identify something that Jarvis observed about kids in his school that you found interesting. How does it relate to the social scene at LREI? In responding, don’t talk about specific individuals or incidents at LREI, but try to get at the underlying idea (e.g., instead of saying, “I remember when X . . .” try “sometimes a person can think that . . . .”
Feel free (in fact it is encouraged) to respond to someone who has posted before you. If you agree, explain why and see if you can take the idea deeper. If you disagree, explain why and offer your view on things. Whether you agree or disagree, respond respectfully and thoughtfully.
If you are responding to a classmate, click on the reply link in their comment so that your reply is connected to their comment.
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In this chapter Jarvis is talking about “the right way to talk” and sometime in lrei kids stay on a topic to long and brag about what they did and to be honest we all have done something like this I. Our lives
I agree with Ryann some kids at LREI do brag and talk too much about them self.
I agree,but it can sometimes not always be about them selves ( an ex is someone talking about someone being part of a cool group or the person has done something cool and the popular kids would do the same. Or you could just talk about how good you are at something
I agree a lot of people talk to much sometimes and we all do brag throughout our lives.
averybody brags about something but there is a big difference between boasting and having pride. It is good to be proud of something that you did and it is bad to brag about something that you bought.
I agree. A lot of people brag about doing something cool, or doing something just so other people would like them, when you don’t have to brag to do that.
I thought that it was interesting that there was a person that tried to be funny all the time, but they really weren’t. Every person has strengths and weaknesses, some people just don’t have social strengths such as talking right. Sometimes a person might think that being funny is a way to draw attention to themselves, but in the end, they might end up embarrassing themselves. I also thought that it was interesting that there was a girl who always sounded like she was bragging, but she wasn’t meaning to. Sometimes a person might think that bragging is a way to make other people be jealous of you, but bragging and boasting usually just makes other people dislike you.
I think that Sophie is correct, there are many people who try to get attention by laughing and making weird jokes but they just embarrass themselves even more, they get a lot of attention but not the attention they were hoping for. Also sometimes people don’t realize that they are bragging and then people get annoyed and just ignore them. Also some people brag on purpose because they want people to think that they are cool and that they should be friends with them because they have so much and can do so much. This just makes people more annoyed.
I also think that is true and that they want attention and they want people to watch them and do stuff like that. Also that people brag of are mean and they don’t realize and then they don’t know that they did something wrong
I also think it was interesting that people tried being funny all the time. Everyone has different ways of drawing attention to them selves and some people thing that being funny will work. I think that there are people like this at LREI as well.
I totally agree with this. I think that a lot of people might say jokes like “you dress so weird.” “just kidding.” In the end it doesn’t feel like the person is kidding if they are constantly saying something mean and then say just kidding as a way to make it seem like they never said it.
I agree with Olivia! I think that there is a point when they can’t say this stuff anymore and I think that it could ruin their reputation, and it comes to a point where “just kidding” and “no affence” actually mean thre opposite. Personally I think that, that way of talking shouldn’t be excepted. Soon the people all around you will be affended even if you say “just kidding” i think they need to “just stop”
I agree. Some people may say mean things and before they can say, “Just kidding” or “I don’t mean it!”, the person who that is being said to is hurt. And sooner or later, that person is going to really dislike you even if they used to be your best friend. They will keep on taking what you say to them to heart so it will effect them the most.
I agree with Sophie. To add on, for some people social skill or “Talking right” comes naturally, then there are people who struggle with this skill. I also agree with Ryann who said we all brag sometimes even without noticing it at the moment. I have to admit I have too. I don’t notice until I’m done talking, but sometimes people force you to brag. If someone asked where are you going for winter or spring break and you’re going somewhere awesome then you have to brag because they asked you the question.
I think it is true that if you brag you just make people dislike. If you do it it might not be on purpose. Or maybe you just want people to like you and think you’re cool by telling them about what you have. It can be mean even if you don’t even know your doing it.
I found it interesting that Jarvis sees a lot of different personalities, not just a few groups. Well, he does see groups, but not as many as I would think. At LREI, I think that we have some closely-knit groups, but there are more individuals than groups.
I agree with will that at LREI we do kind of have groups but no as much as Jarvis’s school.
I also agree with will and cooper that LREI does have groups but not as closed in or impossible to be a part of groups
A lot of kids in our school talk to much (sometimes me.) But also some kids in our school do talk a lot for a long time about stuff that they might not be interested in. Yes we do have to change the way we do talking to different people. Like talking to you a young kid I remember when I was talking to my buddy I had to be like “hi kai” and I had to be really friendly. LIke talking to my friends I don’t have to be as friendly and childish.
It really matters who you are around. With my friends I can talk about want I want and what they are interested in. I listen to what my friends say to me. When I talk to my buddy I usually want them to talk about them selves. You really need to know what the person likes. If I just talk about myself that is kind of boring to the people are “listening to me.”
agreed 😀
At the part about Katia and Celine i think that if you talk like Celine at lrei you would be unpopular also.
I think that you have to find a balance, you can’t talk to much, and you can’t talk to little, you have to find something in the middle. Also you can’t talk all about yourself, or to little of yourself. If you can’t find that balance then people won’t think your popular.
I couldn’t have said it better my self
I agree because sometimes if you talk too much about people, that may be implying the wrong message. It may be telling others that you are self-centered or care more about yourself. If you barely talk about yourself, people may think that you just want to know about them and you don’t want to reveal anything about yourself. It sort-of does have to do with being popular because then people may or may not want to be your friend based on these things.
I think that in our school certain people try a little too hard to be funny or to mention something big they have (bragging), and it’s like they don’t realize that you don’t actually need to try that hard.
Sometimes people think that they need to try hard to fit in because they see that other people who are popular have certain qualities and they want to be like them. So they try really hard to be exactly like them but it doesn’t work and people think that they are just weird.
It was interesting how when some people tried to be funny they weren’t, and they were the only ones laughing at their own jokes. I thought that one of the reasons only he was laughing, was that the other kids were trying to have a serious conversation. I think sometimes you can be funny and other times you shouldn’t, but you have to figure out when.
Or you would not be respected as much as others
I defiantly agree with cameron, people think that you have to talk to different people in different ways like little kids or a person that you want to try to be cool with. But the reality that you can talk to a little kid or a friend the way that you usually talk because people might get the wrong idea about you even though your personality may be different than the way you think you should talk
Yeah, some people only laughed alone, they weren’t ever really funny. They are sometimes when its fine but also sometimes when its not appropriate.
Yeah Some people laughed at me of something that I did that. But sometimes I just laughed with them.
I think that most people don’t realize it when there trying to fit but they still do it. Those are the people who have a good social cognition and the people who don’t have to try really hard
I think that some people in our community do boast about themselves but they make it in a way that doesn’t show directly like. “OMG the new “blank” is so much cooler then the “blank”.
I agree, and can connect with your theory. I have noticed that once in a while, certain people can brag about something in a rather anonymous way. Take clothes for example: FIGURE 1: “I heard that these type of shoes are the new thing.” That is boasting about yourself, and putting the other person down.
In this chapter Jarvis is talking about talking right. I think that this mans not bragging or going off topic
I think that some people, (not saying names) including me, can talk a little too much. And a lot of people (still not saying anything) talk to much about themselves and their knowledge… which is really annoying.
I agree because I can agree with them and have a good conversation with them
I think that in lrei we have almost the same groups, with a with a few exeptions . however they are a bit more subtle.
I think that I is true that people brag at LREI and I think that everybody has bragged in their lives. Sometimes you don’t even notice until someone points it out to you but sometimes you just want to talk about yourself. Most of the time you just talk about yourself in a really positive way so that you sound like something better than reality.
I think that some people can brag a lot at LREI. But I think that they don’t mean it. They’re just trying to share a part of their life with their friend and tell them something cool that they did or something. But if they’re bragging like ” OMG! I’m so much cooler then so and so” There is bragging when you try to fit in and be the center of attention, but there is bragging when you don’t mean it.
i have a personal connection to talking right because sometimes i come a cross as rude.
Sometimes people think they are superior/cooler than others so they may tell them to do something or treat them differently then they may want to be treated. At LREI, this doesn’t really happen but sometimes, it may happen.